A professional gave me a copy of a page in a book, 86 T.I.P.S for the Therapeutic Toolbox, written by Judith A. Belmont, M.S., to help me understand where I stand as a woman. At the time I was struggling with issues of self respect and she was helping me with this along with other emotional issues.
I placed the page on my bulletin board in my studio where I saw it whenever I was working. It is a list of 20 basic rights that we all have, men and women, and they should be honored and respected by all.
I decided to create a series based on all 20 on this list as blog posts. Today I am going to write about the first right, “The right to have and express your own feelings and opinions.” This is my own respective opinion .
We all come from different heritages, cultures and religions where what is believed within the family is passed through different generations. I respect this and understand it is their faith in what they believe. The traditions are carried down from great-grandparents, grandparents, parents and the children of today. I understand how important their beliefs are and if today’s children want to continue with their faith and culture, they should be allowed to and live in peace with it.
However, if you lived within a family unit where respecting one’s personal rights were not practiced and it became a learned behavior, in my opinion, you do not have the right to bring this behavior to your newly created family and expect your family to live with this practice.
There needs to be a time when generations of disrespect among family members has to stop. The generational mannerisms of a family needs to stop somewhere and one member has to take the responsibility to do so because it is disrespectful to place the burden on your loved ones to put up with the emotional abuse.
A man or a woman in a family unit should never lose the right to have and express your own feelings and opinions. It is your right to your opinions and feelings and never let anyone take that away from you.
NOTE: I want to thank Judith A. Belmont for creating her book, 86 Tips for the Therapeutic Toolbox, (2006) and her web site is http://www.worksiteinsights.com. This list she created served to be a great tool for me.